“War” by Michelle Ayon Navajas

(… based on a true story)

Ehsan had to endure his father's outrage whenever he came home drunk. He'd beat him so hard he could barely walk the next day. Worst, he'd always miss school because of this.
 
His father is an excellent provider. He sent them to an outstanding school and provided them with the best house, clothes, and anything a young child would want.
 
He is the best father, except when he is drunk.
 
Drinking has always been an issue for so long. In fact, Ehsan's mother attempted many times to convince his father to undergo therapy or check-in in at a rehabilitation facility. Despite all the efforts, Ehsan's father remained blind to the fact that he had an alcohol addiction.
 
It wasn't the beating that hurt Ehsan the most. It was the fact that his mother remained silent about it.  
 
Martyrdom, that's what anyone called it.
 
One afternoon, Ehsan arrived home from school hungry. He went straight to the kitchen, looking for something to eat. Instead of finding food, he found his mother drenched with her own blood, helpless on the floor.
 
The next thing he knew, he was seated beside her mother in a hospital bed. Ehsan's mother convinced him to forgive his father, for he was unaware of what he was doing. "He was terribly drunk when he beat me," she said.
 
Ehsan's father arrived with roses and chocolates in his hand. "A piece offering, obviously," Ehsan whispered. But what was also evident was that her mother never filed a police report nor put his father behind bars for what he did to her.
 
Ehsan had enough.
 
At twelve years old, Ehsan realized that no amount of maternal love could save him from his father's outrage.
 
Ehsan decided to live with his maternal grandparents. It wasn't easy, as his parents fought in court to have his custody. But with his grandparents' help, Ehsan could live a peaceful life with them.
 
Ehsan is now a father himself too. He vowed never to lay his hands on his children or wife, no matter what and regardless of.
 
Some people would say that children bear the consequences of their parents' actions. Those people would be wrong. Children are the consequences of their parents' actions. Everything they become is a direct result of everything their parents have done.
 
Ehsan had both of his parents growing up. This wasn't necessarily a good thing.
 
From one of them, Ehsan learned cruelty. From the other, martyrdom. Watching them together taught him from a very young age that sometimes tearing a family apart is the only way to save the people in it. That, even so, there are people who would rather suffer every day than leave behind their children to break all alone.
 
And that there were children who, no matter how much pain they received in the past, managed to teach themselves to never give the same pain back to its source.
 
The last one Ehsan learned from himself.
 
War
 
you're raging a war
of which
origin,
you can
barely tell
at all the day
it has begun
your battlefield
is a place called "home"
and your fiercest enemy
is a man named "dad"
 
Copyright © 2023 Michelle Ayon Navajas
All Rights Reserved

Michelle Ayon Navajas, a former college professor who taught literature, speech and oral communication, creative writing, drama, and theatre arts, has authored eight books, which can be found on her author page on Amazon. She is also a published author at Spillwords NYC, where several of her poems have been nominated as publications of the month. Her poem, «Holding Hands,» became Spillwords’ Publication of the Year Nominee for 2021. She is also published widely in international literary magazines and journals and is a monthly contributor to MasticadoresUSA. You can follow Michelle on WordPress, and on Instagram and Facebook @poetrybymich.

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  1. byngnigel dice:

    Sad story..well delivered..and I love the accompanying poem.
    So many families suffer this «martyrdom» in silence. Shame, misplaced loyalty. Fear.
    My father was an alcoholic..never saw him abusive. Other friends weren’t so lucky. They lived in tenterhooks everyday. Very sad. 😞
    Lovely post Mich 👏👏

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    1. michnavs dice:

      Thank you so much Nigel..it’s true, we see this kind of dynamics in most families, where the mother chooses to keep their silence, rather than protect their children; but again we don’t know how they suffered or how they felt about it. I am just glad that Ehsan, grew up to be different.

      I am happy too to know you have not been exposed to an abusive father…i think we are lucky and blessed to have fathers who chose kindness over violence.

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      1. byngnigel dice:

        I think a lot of men who drink a lot, do so to self medicate their own issues. Their own traumas. Sometimes the booze isn’t enough. 😞

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      2. michnavs dice:

        While it is true that drinking is one of the ways, any troubled man could escape his own trauma; it is also unfortunate and unfair that the people who love them suffered the consequences of their being alcoholics.😔

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      3. byngnigel dice:

        Indeed. I had friends who would get a beating as a down payment. An advanced punishment. Alcoholism is a destroyer of dreams and hopes.

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      4. michnavs dice:

        😔😔😔💔

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  2. michnavs dice:

    Reblogueó esto en michnavsy comentado:
    Thank you Barbara for publishing the story of Ehsan. May we all learn a lesson or two from his story. May we also choose kindness over violence.

    Don’t forget to subscribe to MasticadoresUsa to receive updates and notifications everyday for new posts.

    Lastly, here is my appeal to all fathers: if you cannot be responsible at least be gentle and kind.

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  3. Meelosmom dice:

    Mich, many people suffer while growing up and aren’t always taught – or fail to have the insight- to how their story can differ from their father’s. I think writers can help people see new choices. Thank you for your moving piece.

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    1. michnavs dice:

      Thank you so much Barbara…it is important that we, as writers should write and publish more stories of awareness on abuse and violence.

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      1. Meelosmom dice:

        Yes. Artists help to reveal and heal.

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  4. SelmaMartin dice:

    A very sad story. And that photo: breaks my heart.
    “Peace offering?” – my toe!

    Thanks for sharing.

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    1. michnavs dice:

      Thank you Selma…i too was so heart broken listening to Ehsan told his story especially on the part where his mother would always keep her silence about the situation.

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  5. Sadje dice:

    Oh wow! What a touching story Mich. What that 12 year old did saved him. A gutsy young man. Thanks for sharing his story. Congratulations on the publication

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    1. michnavs dice:

      Thank you too so much Sadje….this is a very sad story but i commend Ehsan for not becoming his own father.

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      1. Sadje dice:

        You’re welcome. Yes I agree with you 100%.

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  6. A powerful poem about tragic circumstances.

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    1. michnavs dice:

      Thank you so much Robbie for reading me here.

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  7. jonicaggiano dice:

    Nicely done Michelle. You are so right about children. Thank you for bringing more awareness to this subject. There is no such thing as too much awareness and what it does do to the children. Great story Mich. Sending big hugs, Joni

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    1. michnavs dice:

      Thank you so much Joni…exactly, there is nothing as so much and so many awareness campaigns; for truth be told awareness campaigns against abuse and violence has been around as far as i could remember, and yet we still witness, abuse and violence of any forms around.

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  8. A tell telling sad story that is so important so share, thanks for the painful truth to help raise awareness Mich🙏🏼

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    1. michnavs dice:

      Thank you too Cindy for reading…it is my hope and prayers that with our words we witness abuse and violence slowly diminishing.

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